Following Up

After the date it is ideal to follow up with the other person irrespective of whether it was a positive or negative experience. Not only does it show maturity, it keeps everyone on the same page without leaving them in limbo regarding the relationship.

Essential Etiquette

Both: If you made promises during the course of the date then keep your word. Making false promises merely indicates an unreliable character.

Men: It is important for the man to check up on whether your date arrives home safely. It is also important for the man to follow up on the date and suggest the direction of the relationship.

BBW: If the man spent the time, energy and resources to create an unforgettable experience for you it is important to acknowledge his effort and express gratitude. Ungratefulness may breed contempt and resentment.

Tips

Men: Depending on the success of the date, the man should be the one who initiates the follow up. The timing is up to the man however it should be no longer than 3 days otherwise it will keep the woman in an uncomfortable limbo. Avoid playing mind games and just go with what feels right.  

BBW: As stated previously a simple ‘thank you’ can go a long way. If you believe the relationship has no future then it is equally as important for you to express this to the man as to keep him on the same page.