The Art of Conversation
The Art of Conversation
The crux of the date is in the conversation; it can make or break the relationship in a matter of moments. Knowing how to carry on an engaging and flowing conversation is an art in itself often requiring years of practice. There is no one particular way to have a conversation as it really depends on the dynamics of the date. Fortunately, there are some simple yet powerful etiquette that will keep conversations engaging and flowing.
Essential Etiquette
Both: Keep conversations light, at least at the beginning. Avoid talking about potentially sensitive or controversial areas such as exes, marriage, children or religion. Conversations should be about getting to know each other in a fun and engaging way instead of making it seem like an interview.
Both: Lying in any shape or form will only set you up for heartache later down the track.
Both: If appropriate, have light-hearted debates rather than heated ones that can cause an argument. Remember avoid deep sensitive topics that might cause offense.
Both: It’s best to avoid playing any mind games. Mind games only demonstrate immaturity and insecurity.
Men: In general, men should be leading the conversations. Talking about yourself incessantly or bragging is very off-putting. Instead, be curious about your date and if she asks about you then answer. Not only will you show interest and make her important, you create an air of mystery about yourself which can be very alluring.
Men: Avoid swearing or being vulgar unless your date initiates it – Keep in mind it all depends on the situation and the dynamics of the interaction.
BBW: It may be tempting to over-talk when asked great questions. Keep it a two-way conversation so you can find out more about your date.
BBW: Probing too deep into your date’s past only makes you look nosy and insecure. Let these come out naturally and in time.
Tips
- If you’re a great conversationalist you may want to touch on deeper topics which will build trust and rapport faster.
- Most people love talking about themselves so be genuinely curious and ask better questions to spark their passions.
- Lastly, be your genuine self and let them fall in love with you.