The Check Game
The Check Game
Playing the check game is potentially one of the most awkward and important aspect of dating for most people. Traditionally, men are the ones who pay the bill however BBW are becoming more financially independent and less attached to outdated stereotypes of gender roles.
Not every woman expects the man to pay for all her expenses so it is important to discuss the expectations over who pays early on (and how often) to avoid feelings of being taken advantage of. The key is to keep it lighthearted or hint subtly the issue to avoid harboring resentment later on.
Essential Etiquette
Men: Offer to pay for the full meal (or other expenses) at the very least on the first date. Avoid going Dutch (splitting the bill) as it doesn’t look good for you unless your date insists.
BBW: Always show gratitude anytime the man pays for you. The very act of even offering to pay can impress a man immensely. On the other hand, having the expectations that all your expenses will be automatically taken care of is at the very least for most men off-putting. Lastly, be mindful of what you order if you know that your date is definitely paying.
Tips
- Men:For first dates avoid the ‘check game’ by giving your credit card early on to the service staff.
- BBW:Never underestimate the power of gratitude. A simple ‘thank you’ is often enough to keep the man happy and your date running smoothly.